When girl meets boy, we all know that it is a disaster waiting to happen. Especially since 9 out of 10 times we do not meet the boy who is right for us.
And yet we can't help ourselves but to fall for that one asshole. Why is that?
I was discussing this with one of my friends the other day, after a guy had let me wait for him until 11 pm only to then ditch me because he was tired. Both my friend and I are independent, opinionated and honest women, and yet it pains me to say that this guy leaves me completely tongue-tied. Something which is not a usual occurance. And the worst part is that I know he does not like me. So why can't I just end this slow-burning poison that crawls its way through my system, why can't I stop torturing myself?
The answer to that however, is relatively simple. Because it's safe. Since as long as I have my eyes on him, I will not open up my heart to the possibility that someone else might really feel that way about me, and that I can return that feeling. I take the occasional bad feelings because I'm scared of what might happen if I get the good ones. And isn't that fucking silly?
But labels frighten me. My flighty heart needs that thrill of meeting someone new and playing those games while trying to get to know each other. Some people say that just marks me as someone who is not ready, but why do we always need to see things so black and white? Why are we so focused on monogamous relationships? Because to be honest, there are times where I'm not exactly sure they work.
No, I think it is our fear (once again) to be left alone in the cold that makes us cling so much to one person to make us happy. But let's be real, it is the most unhealthy attitude to life you can have. We can't solely depend on someone else to make us happy. We really need to do that ourselves.
And we'll run and scream, you'll dance with me. They'll fulfill our dreams and we'll be free.
So please, be active in living the life the way you want to. Don't dismiss your dreams out of fear you might fail. One single guy does not make or break your life. And if he is, please stop giving him that power.
Because any of us deserves way more than that.
And yet we can't help ourselves but to fall for that one asshole. Why is that?
I was discussing this with one of my friends the other day, after a guy had let me wait for him until 11 pm only to then ditch me because he was tired. Both my friend and I are independent, opinionated and honest women, and yet it pains me to say that this guy leaves me completely tongue-tied. Something which is not a usual occurance. And the worst part is that I know he does not like me. So why can't I just end this slow-burning poison that crawls its way through my system, why can't I stop torturing myself?
The answer to that however, is relatively simple. Because it's safe. Since as long as I have my eyes on him, I will not open up my heart to the possibility that someone else might really feel that way about me, and that I can return that feeling. I take the occasional bad feelings because I'm scared of what might happen if I get the good ones. And isn't that fucking silly?
But labels frighten me. My flighty heart needs that thrill of meeting someone new and playing those games while trying to get to know each other. Some people say that just marks me as someone who is not ready, but why do we always need to see things so black and white? Why are we so focused on monogamous relationships? Because to be honest, there are times where I'm not exactly sure they work.
No, I think it is our fear (once again) to be left alone in the cold that makes us cling so much to one person to make us happy. But let's be real, it is the most unhealthy attitude to life you can have. We can't solely depend on someone else to make us happy. We really need to do that ourselves.
And we'll run and scream, you'll dance with me. They'll fulfill our dreams and we'll be free.
So please, be active in living the life the way you want to. Don't dismiss your dreams out of fear you might fail. One single guy does not make or break your life. And if he is, please stop giving him that power.
Because any of us deserves way more than that.